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5 ways to stop struggle
By Lee Ann | September 14, 2008
If you’ve ever felt like life was hard – you’re not seeing the results you want with your business, your weight, your relationships – your fill-in-the-blank. It doesn’t have to be so hard – in fact – it can and is supposed to be easy.
So, here are 5 tips to ease the struggle, to get you in the flow and put you on the path to living the life the way it was meant to be lived.
1. Be grateful. This is cool. No matter what your issue or situation – you have something to be grateful for. I practice this every day now. Some days I’m grateful that I have hot and cold running water, that I have all the food I could possibly eat, that I have love. But, here’s the kicker – I also feel grateful – I don’t just think the words. The feeling is what’s important. I have to attach those positive feelings to the grateful thoughts.
2. Clear out the clutter. And, I don’t mean clean out your garage, although that is a good project. I mean clear out the negative self-talk in your head. I am very self-aware now when I have negative thoughts. And, the second I think one- I flip it to a positive thought. Try it.
3. Stop blaming others. I used to not even recognize when I was doing this. I think this one got cemented when I was a kid. It became natural to blame my brother and then it just became a bad habit. But, here’s what I know when you blame others – you take away all your power. If others are to blame for your current situation – then that renders you powerless. If you don’t take responsibility for exactly what you have created so far in your life – then you can’ t make it better. So, don’t blame the economy, your boss or the red M & M’s (you don’t have to eat them!). Instead of blaming take responsibility – it’s got amazing power.
4. Be happy where you are in your pursuit of happiness. Don’t fall into the trap of – I’ll be happy when I get there – whether there is married, or when you get the bigger house or the better job. Celebrate where you are – right now. Because, psst, lean closer because I’m going to whisper and tell you a secret – there is no “there”. Wherever you are and whatever you are doing there will always be something bigger and better waiting for you.
5. Forgive. Forgive? What’s that doing in this list. What does forgiveness have to do with struggle? I can tell you from personal experience that I have had to forgive people who I thought caused me harm because that suppressed anger was holding me back. That anger and resentment was causing me to think that I wasn’t worthy of success – what a load of crap. If there are any people or situations that have hurt you – let them go. Forgive whoever and whatever it was. Write a letter forgiving and then burn it, rip it up – flush it. That event doesn’t even exist anymore – it’s in the past and you live in the now.
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