The Power of The Dream

Thank you Celine Dion for inspiring me today. I share this song with you – listen carefully to the lyrics. Because
your dream is the most important thing you own – keep it alive at all costs. Do everything you can to make it come
true. Remember that everything that we have around us was once a dream, a thought. We all have one deep inside,
it’s just that we have to dig past the layers of fear and nonbelief that have stopped us. I hope this song inspires you
to go further than you have, to take just one more step every day towards living your dream. And, then to bask in the sweetness
of living it.

Maybe = May be NEVER

Maybe has kept me from blogging since April!!!

Sure, I thought about getting back to blogging – and then said maybe I’ll do it tomorrow, if I’m not too busy.

And so five months, FIVE months have gone by – without a blog post.  And, no, I was not ever too busy to take 10

minutes to post here.

So what happened?

I never made the decision to begin again – really blog consistently again.  Sure, I’d poked my head in, cleared

the cobwebs and made a post or two – but no consistency.

That darn maybe.

See, maybe really means – may be never.  I’ve learned and am constantly reminded in the power of making a

decision – not a maybe, not a someday, not an “I’ll try”.  A real honest-to-goodness decision from which there can only be

two outcomes – You achieve the thing you set out to do or you don’t.  Period.

So, from now on, there will be blogging from me.  Consistently.  No maybes.  That’s my decision.

There is amazing power in making a decision – it forces you to take action.  It spurs you on when you

think that you can’t continue.  It gives you a reason to keep on going.  Why?  Because you made a commitment

to yourself, and possibly to others to get ‘er done.

I made two decisions today.  Small ones, but decisions on actions that I could take and see through in 1 hour.

And, now,  I’ve achieved both of them.

This may be very simplistic, but it proves to myself that I can set a goal and see it through to completion –

something that on a bigger scale – when there is more involved I tend to fall off and not see tasks through to


So, by doing these two tasks – I’ve now reinforced the fact that I can finish something I begin.  And, this is extremely

important to me.

It’s now up to me to build on this.  To learn to keep going and finish what I begin.  Because unless I do that, I miss out

on the personal sense of satisfaction I get from getting a job done.  And I also know the more I see tasks through, the easier and

more natural it will get.

Not to mention I’ll get a whole lot more accomplished.

Maybe.  🙂

Another Susan Boyle fan

It feels so good to blog again.  I’d taken a blogging hiatus and it felt like something was missing – and it was – blogging!  I’ baaack.

So, I’m on Twitter the other day and Susan Boyle’s name starts coming up, then it comes up again, and again and again.  I watch the video – along with millions of other people.  I could write about this experience, but Dr. Mani of India has done so – and very eloquently.  So, I am going to send you away to read his thought provoking post on both Susan Boyle and the @aplusk @cnn Twitter battle.  

Take it away – Dr. Mani (click on name for post)

Hotties and Not so Hotties


When you want to attract abundance, prosperity and anything good into your life there are some things you should do – Hotties, and things that will keep what you want away – Not so Hotties. Read them all and then see where you are on the attraction scale.

Are you mostly in the Hotties or Notties?

1. Thinking that you’ll be successful when – you get that new job, you move to another state, when you take that next course, when you (fill in the blank) – Hottie or Not so Hottie thought? (Not so Hottie) Why?

Answer: Not so Hottie. At every rung in the ladder or step up the mountain you have to believe that success (i.e. – reaching the top/goal) is coming. You can’t pin your success on an outside circumstance that is dependent on others – getting a new job, moving, etc. Your success will be entirely created or not by your thoughts and actions.

2. Being envious of others who are more successful than you – Hottie or Not so Hottie?

Okay, I threw you a bone here. Obviously, thinking negative thoughts is in the Never Hottie category. Here’s how to turn it around. Tell yourself that you’re happy for their success and really feel it. Then tell yourself that yours is coming and you have to really believe it – even if you don’t feel it so much. Hey, if you were driving from NY to LA – 99% of the trip you can’t see LA, you’re far from LA – as far as you’re concerned LA might not even exist. Even when you’re just a few miles from LA you still can’t see it. But, common sense tells you that LA exists – so you keep driving and you get there.

3. Star Light Star Bright – First Star I see tonight – I wish I may, I wish I might – get the wish I wish tonight. (Wishing on a star – Hottie or Not so Hottie?)

Survey says – This one’s a tossup. Why? Because at least you’re clear on what you want. You’re wishing for a certain thing, something tangible. Desire is the first step to creation – so you’ve created the desire – That’s a hottie thoughtie.

Wishing it to come true on the other hand – not so much. You have to take action, inspired action toward your desire. And you will be surprised when people, opportunities show up that you couldn’t have planned for, but will help you get to your goal faster.

For the next 30 days – when those thoughts flood your head – ask yourself if they’re hotties or notties. And, then force yourself to go for more of the hotties.

Nice guys don’t finish last

b21dario163 Were pirates “nice guys”? Who knows? Some of them may have been nice guys who made a bad career choice.

I do know this – that nice guys finish last is a saying that should be made to walk the plank and disappear out of the ocean or stream of our consciousness. Negative sayings like this are poison to any mind that is trying to think positive.

It seems like a little thing, like I’m nitpicking. But I’m not. I never pick nits – I don’t even know where to find a nit. But I digress.

I dislike sayings like this because words are very powerful, especially when they are in the form of thoughts. A saying like this because it’s so common to our society can foster negative beliefs to form about being nice. I know that I’ve done nice things for people only to have the go unnoticed or in some cases – it’s been used against me.

And what happened? Being nice became anchored to a negative emotion for me. The saying nice guys finish last became more of a belief that I held to be true rather than just a random statement. So, I held back a bit on my niceness, not intentionally, but that’s what happened.

And then, because I am a nice person who wasn’t acting as nice as I should have, I felt guilty. Again, not consciously or intentionally, but in my subconscious I knew I was robbing my soul by not being as nice as I should to family, friends and strangers. I was robbing my soul of happiness because of a fear that I would be hurt or ignored again. It was a vicious circle of pain – until I realized what was happening and put a stop to it.

I’m not saying I was a raving bitch, but I certainly wasn’t being as nice as I could have been to those around me. And, when I realized it stemmed from fear of rejection – that’s when I was able to turn it around. I just told myself that it didn’t really matter what other people thought of me. That I knew I was a nice person and I believed that deep inside – where it really mattered.

This was a short post – but it took me a long time to get past the hurt. In fact, some days it’s a conscious effort on my part – the hurt never goes away – it’s just how I deal with it that’s changed.

And, that’s the way it is with every challenge in life. It’s not the challenge that will keep you down – it’s how you deal with it. I know that so many people say that – but, that’s because it’s true.

If you want to change your outcomes you have to change your thoughts. Choose the lemon or the lemonade – it’s your choice.

Money, money, money


Money and I have had an on/off relationship for years now.  There have been times when my bank account was a welcome home for it and other times when, well, the money I had didn’t want to invite any more friends to the party.


I’ve gone over and over this.  Why did I let my bank account or income get to a certain amount and then shut the door or spend so that no more comes in?  First, I know I’m not alone with this.  There are scads of experts and prosperity coaches who tell us that we have money comfort zones and we don’t like to go too far from them.

And it all is based on untruths we tell ourselves.  For example, I thought at one time that if I made more money than my friends that they wouldn’t accept me anymore. Well, this belief actually turned out to be partly true, which at first annoyed me.  Then after deeper reflection, I realized that they weren’t the best friends for me in the first place.  So, we parted ways and I became comfortable with my income.

Then, I started subconsciously doubting myself.  I felt that I wasn’t worthy of the money and spent it back to my comfort level.

On deeper reflection, I realized that I didn’t want to make more money because that would bring added responsibilities, and I didn’t feel ready for more responsibility in my life.  Now, I realize that was total crap.  My weirdness about having money was nothing more than a struggle with self-doubt and self-worth that I’ve had for years.

When will it change?

When I change it.  And, there’s no better place than here and now to state that I am worth every dollar that I desire.  Whatever I have done in the past with money  is released and doesn’t exist anywhere except between my ears.  

There.  I’ve said it.  And, not in a boastful or egotistical way.  I merely want to be publicly accountable to myself to keep my new attitude about my self-worth healthy.

And, I don’t desire money to feed my ego.  I realize that money is just a mirror to myself of how I’m doing on my spiritual journey.  

If you’re experiencing issues around money – if there’s never as much as you would like. I suggest you hire a coach to explore that – you’re worth as much as you would like – and then some.

You need protection from negative thoughts

protection from negative thoughts

Sometimes you just gotta have protection.

I mean for this post to be as blunt as I can be, so I chose condoms as a visual.

You need protection from negative thoughts.  Why?

Because negative thoughts, thoughts of why you can’t do things, why you’re not good enough – don’t drive your life forward they hold it back.

Negative thoughts of envy, greed, jealousy, hate – they don’t drive you forward they hold you back.

How’s this for a thought?  Your thoughts control your actions, and it’s the actions you take that determine the results you get and your results = the life you are living now.  That’s how important thoughts are.  Your thoughts control the destiny of your life.  Did you get that?  Your freakin’ destiny is controlled by your thoughts.

Are you in the relationship you want?

Do you have the money you want?

Are you in the shape you want to be in?

Does your life have fulfillment and meaning?

I’m assuming if you’re reading my blog then you answered no to at least one of those questions.

You need protection – you need to put a condom on those negative thoughts.

Try this for 31 days.  Everytime you think a negative thought, every time – I would like you to picture a condom.  Don’t judge yourself for thinking a negative thought – just catch it in a condom.  Now replace that negative thought with a thought that will be positive.  Any positive thought will do.   The first day you do this – you’ll be amazed at how many condoms you have to whip out.  By the end of 31 days you’ll find that you’ve put yourself in the habit of thinking positive thoughts.

I do this every day.  I’m human so I need to condomize those negative thoughts that creep in – so do you.  But, I do it far less often now.

Start today and have fun with this.  You can change the direction of your life –

one thought at a time.

Pulling back the curtain





Why should you trust what I say about motivation, inspiration, Law of Attraction?  I agree that you shouldn’t trust me unless I share why I’m qualified to talk about this stuff.  

That’s why I’m pulling back the curtain.  Come back with me to when I was 16 years old.   Remember when you were 15?  Life was good right?  There were after school parties, weekend parties, you got your drivers license and the world was fresh, fun and exciting.  

That was your reality – it wasn’t mine.  My parents had recently divorced and I had an emotional meltdown and became agoraphobic.  That big word means that I was scared to leave my house – terrified.  I would have a panic attack within ten minutes of going to school.  I was riddled with self-doubt and constant fear.  The worst thing was that I didn’t understand where the fear was coming from, so it seemed like I couldn’t ever move past it.  I felt hopeless.  At 16!!  

Just 3 short years later, not only was I able to leave my home – but I was on a plane headed to Israel – by myself!

What happened?

I changed what I was focusing on.  When I was trapped in my house, afraid I was going to have a panic attack – then would go to school – so focused on not having a panic attack – what happened?  I had a panic attack.  Of course, because what you focus on expands.

So, I had to learn to think that I was going to go to school and have a great day.   I had to focus on the fact that I had lived for 15 years without having panic attacks – so I had the ability to not have panic attacks.  I focused on my past experience of being in school and enjoying the experience.  And, then I had to do it.  I had to go to school, not think about panic attacks and it was a process.  I would go to school – be able to stay for one hour, then I might get scared and have to leave.  But, the next day, I would do it again – and be able to stay a bit longer.  It wasn’t long before I had build up enough confidence that I could go to school and not have to try to consciously think positive – it just came naturally.

And, what happened to the agoraphobia, what happened to those panic attacks?  When I taught myself that they had no power over me – they just vanished.   And, at the age of 19 I was boarding a plane – traveling alone – to spend six weeks in Israel.

I struggled with sharing this, but I realize that I’m not the only person on the planet who suffered from panic attacks.  And, if my sharing that can help just one person get over their panic attacks – it’s worth any discomfort I may feel.

BTW, I still feel fear – that’s natural.  It’s how I deal with it that’s very different.  

Remember that you can overcome any fear or panic – if I can do it – so can you.

Four Minute Mile Myth





Roger Bannister has me all excited this morning.  I don’t know why, maybe it’s the promise of possibility, of hope that limiting beliefs exist only to be shattered. I realize that everything I need to know to succeed now, I knew as a toddler – I just let limiting beliefs get in the way.   That happens to all of us.  It’s part of life.

It really doesn’t matter how those limiting beliefs, those thoughts that keep holding us back got between our ears.   I mean that – it doesn’t matter.   Let that sink in.

What does matter?

That we let them go, that we replace them with new, positive energizing thoughts.   Have you heard this before?

Hell, yeah.  

But, let me ask ya, what have you done with that knowledge?  Have you stepped out of your comfort zone and expanded it to new possibilities of what you’re capable of?  

But, don’t take it from me.  Let Roger inspire you too today.

The 1500m final on 26 July would prove to be one of the more dramatic in Olympic history. The race was not decided until the final meters, Josy Barthel of Luxembourg prevailing in an Olympic-record 3:45.28 (3:45.1 by official hand-timing) with the next seven runners all under the old record. Bannister finished fourth, out of the medals, but set a British record of 3:46.30 (3:46.0) in the process. So…

Bannister sets a new goal

After the devastation of his failure at the 1952 Olympics, Bannister spent two months deciding whether to give up running. He decided on a new goal: To be the first man to run a mile in under four minutes. Accordingly, he intensified his training.

History was made on 6 May 1954 at Iffley Road Track in Oxford.  3,000 watched Roger Bannister do what no man thought possible – run the mile in 3 min 59.4 

What are your 4 minute miles?  What do you think impossible?  Which of those do you really want to achieve?  

Then “pull a Roger”.  Set the goal, take action by plugging away at achieving it every day.  Better your best.  Believe and see yourself doing it.  

Some days the wind will be at your back and somedays you’ll feel like you’re running into a headwind.  But, with persistence and belief –