What the Dickens?

I have to plug a faaaaabulous book that I read yesterday.  Yes, I read it in one day – I couldn’t put it down.   The title is Life’s Golden Ticket by Brendon Burchard.  I don’t want to give any of the book away – but the title of this blog post has something to do with the premise.

I also had the pleasure, (and I mean pleasure – this guy’s a great speaker), of seeing Brendon in person at Big Seminar in Atlanta.  The beginning of his presentation involves a hilarious take on his skydiving experience.  But, the part of the presentation that got my brain cells churning were three questions that he asks himself at the end of each day:

Did I live?

Did I love?

Did I matter?

I can see where asking these questions each and every day could change your life.

Did you live?  Did you live your day to the fullest, appreciating each experience?  Or do you just struggle to make it through the day just so you can wind up exhausted and thankful the day is over?  There’s a world of difference between the two.  And, what is so cool is that you don’t have to wait, in fact you should never wait until something gets better in your life before you appreciate what you have.  Try going through a day really living it and enjoying where you are now.

Did you love?  Did you treat people with respect today and love?  Did you give smiles away, hug your children a little tighter, tell your significant other or parent how much you appreciate and love them.  And, here’s a biggie – did you treat yourself the same way?  Did you love and respect yourself?

Did you matter?  Each day that you live, you are leaving a legacy – whether you’re aware of it or not.   Do you have a message that can make someone’s life easier, happier?  What skills do you have that you can share with the world?  Don’t hold back.   Your time is now.

Did you live?  Did you love?  Did you matter?

What will be different about today?

Do you want to move closer to your dream life today? Then what are you going to do differently today?

If the answer is yes then do this – change your attitude. Today make it a point to not react negatively to anything – anything that happens through your day. And, I mean anything and everything.

Example: if you’re stuck in traffic on your wayto work and you usually get stressed – change that today. Just be calm and if you can’t be calm – look at yourself being tense and observe what’s going on. Try to just look at your tension as an impartial observer and ask yourself – “Why am I choosing to have this experience?” In other words – why does being in traffic make you tense. Sit with that – you’ll have time….

Throughout the day when you notice your negative reaction to any situation, if your spouse says something that normally would tick you off – Ask yourself this question – Why am I choosing to have this experience? If you spill coffee on your new tie, stub your toe, your car won’t start, WHATEVER…

Do this for one day and take note of the results..

5 ways to stop struggle

If you’ve ever felt like life was hard – you’re not seeing the results you want with your business, your weight, your relationships – your fill-in-the-blank.   It doesn’t have to be so hard – in fact – it can and is supposed to be easy.

So, here are 5 tips to ease the struggle, to get you in the flow and put you on the path to living the life the way it was meant to be lived.

1. Be grateful.  This is cool.  No matter what your issue or situation – you have something to be grateful for. I practice this every day now.  Some days I’m grateful that I have hot and cold running water, that I have all the food I could possibly eat, that I have love.  But, here’s the kicker – I also feel grateful – I don’t just think the words.  The feeling is what’s important.  I have to attach those positive feelings to the grateful thoughts.

2. Clear out the clutter.   And, I don’t mean clean out your garage, although that is a good project.  I mean clear out the negative self-talk in your head.  I am very self-aware now when I have negative thoughts.  And, the second I think one- I flip it to a positive thought.  Try it.

3. Stop blaming others.  I used to not even recognize when I was doing this.  I think this one got cemented when I was a kid.  It became natural to blame my brother and then it just became a bad habit.  But, here’s what I know when you blame others – you take away all your power.  If others are to blame for your current situation – then that renders you powerless.  If you don’t take responsibility for exactly what you have created so far in your life – then you can’ t make it better.  So, don’t blame the economy, your boss or the red M & M’s (you don’t have to eat them!).  Instead of blaming take responsibility – it’s got amazing power.

4. Be happy where you are in your pursuit of happiness.  Don’t fall into the trap of – I’ll be happy when I get there – whether there is married, or when you get the bigger house or the better job.  Celebrate where you are – right now.  Because, psst, lean closer because I’m going to whisper and tell you a secret – there is no “there”.  Wherever you are and whatever you are doing there will always be something bigger and better waiting for you.

5. Forgive.  Forgive?  What’s that doing in this list.  What does forgiveness have to do with struggle?  I can tell you from personal experience that I have had to forgive people who I thought caused me harm because that suppressed anger was holding me back.  That anger and resentment was causing me to think that I wasn’t worthy of success – what a load of crap.  If there are any people or situations that have hurt you – let them go.  Forgive whoever and whatever it was.  Write a letter forgiving and then burn it, rip it up – flush it.  That event doesn’t even exist anymore – it’s in the past and you live in the now.

Morning Inspiration

You are a divine creation and your physical body is the manifestation of that. It is your Temple. You wouldn’t go into your house of worship and desecrate it. So you shouldn’t do that to yourself by sabotaging your dreams and desires. it’s time to stop doing that to your self as in your Self. You are connected to your source 24/7, whether you know it or not.

You are worthy of anything you put your mind to, anything. There is nothing that you can think or desire which you cannot have. It is your birthright, it is yours for the receiving. And, that is important to note that it is not there for the taking. You need to be open to receiving what is yours, not taking it from somewhere. To allow it to come to you, to be aware of its presence. Because, here’s the cool thing – whatever you want – I mean whatever – there are already things in your own sight, in your own life right now that will help you get there – you’re just not aware of them yet.

It is important that you be grateful for all that you have. It’s important you honor your Self – and that means all the parts of your Self. Your inner critic has as much importance as the dreamer that wants to soar. Acknowledge your critic for wanting to keep you safe and your dreamer for wanting to take you to amazing places. The only failure is in not trying, not making any steps towards your dreams.

Be happy – have fun. Dance as if no one were watching and sing as if no one is listening.

Your voice is beautiful. You are deserving. You are worthy of all that you can dream.

Let others live their dreams – be concerned only with yours. It will all work out.

There is abundance in everything. There is more than enough for all.

Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up – ever.

Watch for opportunities when they present themselves. They may be disguised as something other than what you expected. Keep your receiving door open so that you may welcome these opportunities into your life.

You live in the present – there is no past – there is no future. The past is gone and the future hasn’t happened yet. Make your now the best it can be – that will affect your future.

There is no fear – if you know that you can’t fail. And, you know what – you can’t fail. Even things that we may call failures are just learning opportunities.

RESPECT yourself.

Be truly you. Don’t try to be like others. You have gifts and talents and a way of being that no one on the planet has. You are unique. Isn’t that cool? Enjoy it.

So, don’t be jealous of what others have – because they don’t have what you have – and that’s a beautiful thing.

Surround yourself with beauty. Clear away clutter. Clutter causes confusion and worry.

Listen to your inner wisdom – your soul. It expresses itself when you feel true joy. If you lose yourself and all track of time in something – take notice – that is when you are connected to your highest source. That is the connection to your soul – doesn’t that give you goosebumps.

Your soul desires many things before you leave your body – get quiet, listen to what is coming up for you.

Give something away every day – unexpectedly. Tip someone who normally doesn’t receive tips – the bagger at the grocery store, the person at the dry cleaners, a stranger walking in the mall. Giving is the highest form of receiving there is. And, receive with gratitude. No excuses. When someone compliments you – accept it with a thank you. For example, someone tells you that they love your outfit and you say, thank you, but it’s just something you threw together. NO. Next time – it’s just – thank you. It will feel different – it has to.

Inspire – from the latin – to breathe. Breath is literally the inspiration for life.

Through your breath you can connect to your Source and ground yourself.

You are amazing – you are already magnificent. Feel your magnificence – there is awe and magic all around. Start noticing it. From the way nature works – this is a good place to look for awe or a god place to look for awe.

Truly love yourself. That high positive vibration will attract more love and goodness into your life. Love will flow back to you. You’ll be a light that will shine so brightly that you’ll light the way for others.

Go, and create a magnificent day – you deserve it.